A retiree explains his path to achieve happiness and counter loneliness

 

A retiree explains his path to achieve happiness and counter loneliness. It can work at any age and doesn't cost a penny.

Story by asheffey@businessinsider.com (Ayelet Sheffey)  • 14h

• Joe Lamy, 75, says loneliness among older people is far too prevalent.
• He started a free group at his local senior center, where residents can gather and simply talk.
• When it comes to happiness, Lamy said, it's not about money — it's about relationships.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

"When his turn finally came to approach the counter, the pharmacist placed a pill bottle into a bag, stapled it, and tossed it into a box about eight feet away.

"Good shot," Lamy said to the pharmacist.

"Practice," she replied, and each of them carried on with their day.

While the interaction might have been insignificant to the pharmacist, it carried meaning for Lamy and shifted the course of his day.

"I didn't have to say anything, but I did," Lamy told Business Insider. "And it made me happy. She and I had this little moment, this tiny little moment."

These tiny moments signify the importance of what a Johns Hopkins 2015 research paper coined as "weak ties," which the New York Times previously described as "low-stakes relationships" that help people feel more connected to others that they might not know very well. A 2014 psychology study found that weak ties help make people happier and spark an increased sense of belonging.

READ FULL ARTICLE HERE: A retiree explains his path to achieve happiness and counter loneliness. It can work at any age and doesn't cost a penny. (msn.com)

Loneliness is the state of distress or discomfort that results when one perceives a gap between one’s desires for social connection and actual experiences of it. - Psychology Today

Social Platforms like Second Life can help people make the connections they want in the manner in which they want to interact with others. The requirement to join Second Life are: System Requirements (secondlife.com) For most people, the requirements are as simple as an off the shelf reasonable computer or laptop. You can also just keep a "free" account, as well. 

Second Life gives all citizens a way to connect with others with similar interests around the world (globally), and the primary purpose is "connection" (i.e. not gaming)!

MAVERICKS MC - In Honor of VETERANS DAY - CONCERT TONIGHT

 MAVERICKS MC - In Honor of Veterans Day

We honor the men and women who kept our freedom and keep us safe!

WE are kicking off the celebration day on Friday, November 10th, with our two-hour concert!

MAVERICKS MC: "HONOR OUR VETS - WORLD" RIDE OUT ON SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 11TH, VETERANS DAY

ALL VETERANS AND RIDERS/MC'S ARE WELCOME

Community: Event

DOWNUNDER & MAXIMILLION KLEENE
Time:    FRIDAY, 11/10/23 7:00 - 9:00 pm slt
Duration:    2 hours
Location: CLICK HERE FOR WORLD MAP TELEPORT TO CONCERT LEVEL 7PM SLT, FRIDAY, NOV 11TH

Host:    Mavericks MC, Door to America, Whitelisted, Global Initiative
Category:    SL MC Community, Motorcycle Clubs in SL, The Interstates

Downunder is a popular & professional real-life singer performing in SL with adoring fans. Down's voice is pure, penetrating, powerful and mesmerizing! Downunder is an amazing Australian vocalist with a World Class voice! Once heard people are drawn to his awesome power ballad rock songs & his sultry dulcet tones that woo the heart.

Maximillion Kleene streams into SL from Niagara Falls, Canada and sings Rock, Pop, Alternative solo acoustic tunes covering old classics (CCR to Johnny Cash) to fun, newer hip stuff (Jack Johnson, Foo Fighters, Green Day, and Jason Mraz).

See you there! Happy Veterans Day!

Door to America featured in the Second Life Destination Guide: Newcomer Friendly

Door to America: DtA

Door to America is a region within Second Life built specifically to onboard new users using the theme “Second Life is a virtual world for human connection!” DtA can promote a healthy, positive, transformative learning curve for users. Second Life is porous and learned skills, talents, and lessons of all types can transcend the virtual world and bring real-world benefits. Learn more at doortoamerica.blogspot.com

Door to America, DtA, Honor to and for our Veterans

Door to America, DtA, is a region in Second Life to honor our veterans, and America! What America means to each of us is a matter of perspective and, thankfully, you have the right to view America in any way you choose. Thanks to approximately 1.3 million American Soldiers who died in all wars since the Revolutionary War who have secured the freedoms we enjoy today! There are countless millions who have earned the right to be called "Military Veteran," and they deserve our respect, honor, and support! 

Door to America, DtA, celebrates some of the best states through which you can ride ground vehicles or horses beginning with Niagara Falls, NY, Florida, Texas, Ohio, SC, California, Hawaii and more. You conclude your journey in a different galaxy on an alien city by the name of Atlantis. 

Join Second Life, a social platform created and maintained by our citizens. You will be happy you did. 

Go to: Official Site | Second Life - Virtual Worlds, Virtual Reality, VR, Avatars, and Free 3D Chat

Once you've created an account, simply add "Door to America" in the location field and hit "enter." You will land at the information and education area to learn how to operate your avatar in Second Life.

See you on the grid!

 

DownUnder & Maximillion Kleene Live @ Mavericks MC 7pm - 9pm slt

 DownUnder & Maximillion Kleene Live @ Mavericks MC 7pm - 9pm slt

Don't Miss Out on Riding 

Mavericks MC: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Ruffneck Falls/196/86/24

DOOR to AMERICA: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Door to America/221/203/417

New SL Citizens @ DtA: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Door to America/146/147/24

DOOR to America Blogspot: Door to America

Join us on Discord: https://discord.gg/DtDHQs9aRb

Mavericks MC is currently recruiting - come, visit!

GOOD MORNING, AMERICA

Good Morning, America

 

Children, teens, and young adults believe their surroundings, their reality, all their surroundings are immutable, eternal, unbreakable - they just "ARE." They look at the schools, stores, buildings, and government as being the "things larger than themselves that are unchangeable and enduring." As mature adults we realize (often in a fit of an epiphany) that what exists was designed by ordinary people and maintained by average people. The Constitution and the Bill of Rights created everything that sustains us via the rule of law at the cost of millions of lives.

Our reality is sturdy but, also, very fragile. It takes a lot of good people a lot of suitable time to make a good life for all Americans. Those attempting to ravage America are cutting their own nose off to spite their faces!

America endures because we endure, and we'll go forward with courage, hope, and the belief in The Constitution and Bill of Rights!

WE are the immutable, unbreakable reality - not the nay-sayers and would-be assassins of our democratic republic.

Good people often take a back seat, often demure on standing up for what is right, often let terrible things go too far before they are forced to face it by getting together and fixing it. Let's do that - NOW!

Maximillion Kleene & Asher Jayden Live On Stage @ Mavericks MC Tonight 5-7pm slt

ASHER JAYDEN LIVE & on Stage

Time:    07/21/23 05:00 pm
Duration:    1 hours
Location:    ASHER JAYDEN CONCERT UBER
Host:    Λ G
Category:    Live Music
Cover:    FREE

MAXIMILLION KLEENE 6PM @ MAVERICKS MC CONCERT LEVEL

Time:    07/21/23 06:00 pm
Duration:    1 hours
Location:    MAXIMILLION KLEENE CONCERT UBER
Host:    MMC, WHITELISTED, DOOR TO AMERICA
Category:    Live Music
Cover:    FREE

JEFFAH & ROCKY TOOCOOL TODAY LIVE & on STAGE @ Mavericks MC Concert Level

JEFFAH & ROCKY TOOCOOL community.secondlife.com

JEFFAH LIVE & on STAGE

Tuesday, July 4⋅1:00 – 2:00pm

ROCKY TOOCOOL LIVE & ON STAGE

Tuesday, July 4⋅2:00 – 3:00pm

Organizer: Mavericks MC

Uber: http://maps.secondlife.com/.../Ruffneck%20Falls/130/162/1817

100 person venue, casual, bring a friend! Come join us for some amazing music!

 

Happy Memorial Day - "All Gave Some. Some Gave All!"

U.S. Veterans Network #server-announcements

SERVER

 — Today at 7:53 AM

Dear @everyone ,

On this solemn occasion of Memorial Day, we gather together as a community to pay tribute to the brave men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice in service to our country. Today, we remember and honor the selflessness, courage, and unwavering commitment of our fallen military personnel.

Memorial Day stands as a poignant reminder that freedom and peace come at a great cost. It is a day when we set aside our daily routines and come together to reflect upon the profound sacrifices made by our heroes. These remarkable individuals, from all walks of life, answered the call of duty, standing tall in defense of our nation's values and principles.

Their lives were a testament to the ideals we hold dear – liberty, justice, and equality. They understood the weight of their responsibility and faced adversity head-on, forging an unbreakable bond with each other and with the nation they served. They marched into the unknown, with unwavering resolve, often in faraway lands, driven by their unyielding commitment to protecting our freedoms.

We remember those who fought valiantly on the battlefields, those who served with distinction in the air and at sea, and those who carried out their duties behind the scenes, providing crucial support and care. Each and every one of them played an essential role in defending our way of life.

While we cannot fully comprehend the depth of the loss felt by their families and loved ones, we can offer our deepest gratitude and unwavering support. Their sacrifice remains etched in our collective memory, and we stand by them, ready to lend a helping hand and provide solace whenever it is needed.

On this day, we come together not only to mourn but also to celebrate the lives of these extraordinary individuals. Let us cherish the memories they have left behind and honor their legacy by striving for a better future. May we never take for granted the freedoms they fought to protect, nor forget the price they paid to secure them.

As we gather in solemn remembrance, let us also extend our heartfelt gratitude to the brave men and women who continue to serve in our armed forces. Their commitment and dedication ensure that the torch of liberty continues to burn brightly, and they stand as a testament to the resilience and strength of our nation.

In the spirit of unity, compassion, and remembrance, let us take a moment to pause, reflect, and honor the fallen heroes who made the ultimate sacrifice. Their courage and valor will forever inspire us, and their memory will endure as an everlasting symbol of the indomitable spirit of our great nation.

Lest we forget.

With profound gratitude,

USVN

 

Become an Owner as Co-Partner with us @ Door to America and/or manage your own Club (free) for DJ's and Singers

 

We are currently looking for a co-partner/owner to join our team managing DtA (Door to America). There are 4 (four) of us, and we are looking for a fifth @ $46.00 usd per month going forward to protect the ongoing growth of Door to America!

https://doortoamerica.blogspot.com/

Door to America is a region within Second Life built specifically to onboard new users using the theme “Second Life is a virtual world for human connection!”  Door to America lists at least twenty-eight (28) benefits to joining Second Life that help people connect with others regardless of their real-life circumstances (including physical, mental, emotional challenges), and can promote a healthy, positive, transformative learning curve for users. Second Life is porous and learned skills, talents, and lessons of all types can transcend the virtual world and bring real world benefits.

Above the tutorials and intake of new SL users at the ground level, DtA has 9 vehicle tracks (mostly motorcycles) that follow U.S. States as follows:

1. Niagara Falls, NY

2. Florida (beaches and Disney-esque)

3. Texas (with 6 shadow boxes to view)

4. Hollywood, CA

5. Hollywood, CA and Beverly Hills

6. Hawaii (with volcano tour)

7. Hall of Rock Hall of Fame Cleveland, Ohio

8. Pirate Level of South Carolina

9. Stargate Atlantis Track (like the TV Series)

Also:

10. Top Gun Speed Track

11. Blade Runner City (like the movie)

12. Many DJ/Live venues & Movie theater/bars

If you want to be part of the future and intake good people to SL then come, give us an inspection.

Door to America is 1 (one) of 5 connected sims titled Destination Adventure.

NOTE: **if you want to own your own music venue or club (DJ's & Live Singers) we have many venues and bars you can manage. Pay zero in rent, and you keep your own club tips.

Warm regards, and we look forward to meeting you!

A G

Contact Angelor Galanter

 

Second Life, the original metaverse app, is getting a mobile release

After two decades, Linden Lab is bringing its virtual world to mobile devices

By Alfonso Maruccia March 17, 2023 at 9:04 AM

Linden Lab recently posted a brief video on its community forum to announce that Second Life will soon have a mobile counterpart. For the first time in 20 years, the virtual world where "residents" enjoy their low-polygonal internet life is expanding its reach beyond traditional desktop platforms.

The mobile version of Second Life will (run) on Android and iOS devices. Linden Lab chose the Unity engine to create their Second Life mobile "viewer" (likely, a dedicated app) and port their online experience to tablets and phones, which is easier to maintain across different platforms.

According to the San Francisco-based company, Second Life Mobile will provide a virtual world which is on par with the one available through desktop systems. The developers had to make some small compromises, but the "complex behaviors" of users' avatars and the "rich" 3D world of Second Life should still be there for residents to enjoy.

The original version of Second Life was released in 2003 and experienced rapid growth and popularity over the years. By 2013, the virtual world had one million regular users but by 2017, the active avatar population had declined to between 800,000 and 900,000 users.

To outsiders, Second Life always felt like a MMORPG game with fewer polygons and interaction opportunities than World of Warcraft. Linden Lab has always insisted that their creation is not a game though, as there are neither "manufactured conflicts" nor set objectives.

To read the complete article click this link: Second Life, the original metaverse app, is getting a mobile release | TechSpot

3 Toxic Personality Types Exist, Say Experts — Here's How To Handle Them (Woman's World)

3 Toxic Personality Types Exist, Say Experts — Here's How To Handle Them

Story by Kristina Mastrocola and Amanda Cargill • 7h ago

According to a recent study co-sponsored by Self.com and Today.com, 84 percent of women have at least one negative person in their life. This high number may sound shocking — but if you’re a part of that 84 percent, you’re likely not surprised. People are complicated, and relationships can be fraught — particularly among women, whose natural intuition and high emotional awareness serves us well in general, but can make certain unions feel like minefields.

But there’s a difference between having a rough patch with a friend and having a chronically toxic friend. The latter is more a burden than a support, and can do real emotional harm. And the experience isn’t limited to friendships; bosses, colleagues, neighbors, and family members can also be toxic. So what, exactly, is a toxic person, and what do you do if you’re friends with one? Below, experts define the most common ‘toxic personality types,’ and offer easy ways to stand up for yourself when confronted with them.

Toxic Personality Type: “The Narcissist”

Narcissism, or an inflated sense of self-importance, is marked by “3D” behavior: denial, defensiveness, and dismissiveness, says expert Wendy Behary. “A narcissist might say, ‘I never said that; you never listen.’ Then they get defensive, downplaying it as no big deal, and dismiss your feelings by walking away.” A fourth “D”? Devaluing you, by saying you’re crazy. “Knowing their behavior is about their damaged psyche helps you reclaim your truth.”

How To Handle It: Raise your voice

If they’re willing to change, Behary suggests “empathetic confrontation.” “This isn’t an endorsement of their behavior; rather, it uses your understanding of them to communicate effectively.” For example, since narcissists are hypersensitive to criticism, you might say:

Toxic Personality Type: “The Passive-Aggressive”

This type of behavior is an indirect way of expressing anger. “It’s often sly and hard to spot,” says expert Loriann Oberlin. “For example, they might be rude, then tell you, ‘I was just joking’ or ‘You’re so sensitive.’” If you see a pattern of stonewalling with silent treatment, trust your gut that it is them (and not your imagination).

How To Handle It: Start with honesty

Passive-aggressive people tend to avoid taking responsibility. “For example, if you’re ordering food, they might say, ‘I don’t care, get anything.’ But when you eat, they don’t like it and imply it’s your fault.” When they avoid expressing their true feelings, you might say, “It actually helps me when you tell me what you want.” The key is opening the lines of communication so they no longer hide their feelings through “covert anger” and learn to express themselves honestly and respectfully.

Toxic Personality Type: “The Critic”

While constructive criticism is solution-oriented, someone who’s chronically judgmental is often bullying, says expert Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D.Since they often push you to see how much you’ll take, she advises deciding what your line in the sand is, then saying, for example, “There’s something I need to talk to you about: It’s not okay when you say X to me.” Sarkis says to never feel guilty for having boundaries.

How To Handle It: Set healthy limits

Since they often push you to see how much you’ll take, she advises deciding what your line in the sand is, then saying, for example, “There’s something I need to talk to you about: It’s not okay when you say X to me.” Sarkis says to never feel guilty for having boundaries.

You Deserve Better

Whether you’re dealing with a narcissist, passive-aggressive type, or chronic critic, Sarkis urges reminding yourself that you deserve three things: courtesy, love, and respect. Perhaps the central takeaway is that just because someone treated you unfairly, the pattern doesn’t have to continue. “I’ve seen so many people go on to have healthy, fulfilling relationships — your destiny is what you decide.”

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