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3 Toxic Personality Types Exist, Say Experts — Here's How To Handle Them (Woman's World)
3 Toxic Personality Types Exist, Say Experts — Here's How To Handle Them
Story by Kristina Mastrocola and Amanda Cargill • 7h ago
According to a recent study co-sponsored by Self.com and Today.com, 84 percent of women have at least one negative person in their life. This high number may sound shocking — but if you’re a part of that 84 percent, you’re likely not surprised. People are complicated, and relationships can be fraught — particularly among women, whose natural intuition and high emotional awareness serves us well in general, but can make certain unions feel like minefields.
But there’s a difference between having a rough patch with a friend and having a chronically toxic friend. The latter is more a burden than a support, and can do real emotional harm. And the experience isn’t limited to friendships; bosses, colleagues, neighbors, and family members can also be toxic. So what, exactly, is a toxic person, and what do you do if you’re friends with one? Below, experts define the most common ‘toxic personality types,’ and offer easy ways to stand up for yourself when confronted with them.
Toxic Personality Type: “The Narcissist”
Narcissism, or an inflated sense of self-importance, is marked by “3D” behavior: denial, defensiveness, and dismissiveness, says expert Wendy Behary. “A narcissist might say, ‘I never said that; you never listen.’ Then they get defensive, downplaying it as no big deal, and dismiss your feelings by walking away.” A fourth “D”? Devaluing you, by saying you’re crazy. “Knowing their behavior is about their damaged psyche helps you reclaim your truth.”How To Handle It: Raise your voice
If they’re willing to change, Behary suggests “empathetic confrontation.” “This isn’t an endorsement of their behavior; rather, it uses your understanding of them to communicate effectively.” For example, since narcissists are hypersensitive to criticism, you might say:
Toxic Personality Type: “The Passive-Aggressive”
How To Handle It: Start with honesty
Passive-aggressive people tend to avoid taking responsibility. “For example, if you’re ordering food, they might say, ‘I don’t care, get anything.’ But when you eat, they don’t like it and imply it’s your fault.” When they avoid expressing their true feelings, you might say, “It actually helps me when you tell me what you want.” The key is opening the lines of communication so they no longer hide their feelings through “covert anger” and learn to express themselves honestly and respectfully.Toxic Personality Type: “The Critic”
While constructive criticism is solution-oriented, someone who’s chronically judgmental is often bullying, says expert Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D.Since they often push you to see how much you’ll take, she advises deciding what your line in the sand is, then saying, for example, “There’s something I need to talk to you about: It’s not okay when you say X to me.” Sarkis says to never feel guilty for having boundaries.Since they often push you to see how much you’ll take, she advises deciding what your line in the sand is, then saying, for example, “There’s something I need to talk to you about: It’s not okay when you say X to me.” Sarkis says to never feel guilty for having boundaries.
You Deserve Better
Whether you’re dealing with a narcissist, passive-aggressive type, or chronic critic, Sarkis urges reminding yourself that you deserve three things: courtesy, love, and respect. Perhaps the central takeaway is that just because someone treated you unfairly, the pattern doesn’t have to continue. “I’ve seen so many people go on to have healthy, fulfilling relationships — your destiny is what you decide.”
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Wednesday, April 12, 2023
ANDERSON PARKES LIVE ON-STAGE Friday, April 14th, 6pm @ DtA
Anderson Parkes Live On-Stage
Friday, April 14th @ 6pm slt
Thursday, April 6, 2023
A-R-R-A LIVE ON STAGE, Mavericks MC, Tues, 4/11, 7pm slt
A-R-R-A LIVE ON STAGE @ Mavericks MC
Tues, 4/11, @ 7pm slt
You know A-R-R-A, you're a fan, you love her humor, you love her voice. Can't get any better than this! Come, enjoy her show, request songs, dance, and have fun!
Bring your JOY! Followed by Anderson Parkes @ 8pm slt
ANDERSON PARKES LIVE ON STAGE, Mavericks MC, Tues, 4/11 @ 8 pm slt
Anderson Parkes, a talented and dedicated musician with almost 30 years of experience in music, provides Second Life shows. With just his voice and his guitar he will project the fun he has on stage onto the audience, singing songs from the 60's to the 2000s: From the Beatles to Metallica, from Suzane Vega to Aerosmith. Out of his repertoire of more than 100 songs, you will certainly find many tunes to request.
** A-R-R-A kicks off the show @ 7pm slt **
** Venue capacity 100 Avatars **
When: Tuesday, April 11th @ 8pm slt
Where: Mavericks MC @ Ruffneck Falls, Concert Venue
Tuesday, April 4, 2023
Door to America presents AVATAR: The Way of Water
Thursday, March 16, 2023
JOHN ROCKY LIVE @ DOOR to AMERICA Thursday, March 16th, 6:00pm slt
John brings Second Life his wealth of real-life experience. His shows are in English and are often described as being "beautiful," groovy," "retro to modern," "heart-touching," and "rocking." Each how can feature pop, rock, hard rock, metal, 80's, 90's, and even some classic rock ballads! Today his covering bands include Led Zeppelin, Aerosmith, Black Sabbath, Guns'N'Roses, Journey, Metallica, Mr. Big, Whitesnake, Queen to Originals, and more.
John's presence on stage is one full of energy, and his passion for music & entertainment shines through in every performance, drawing the crowd in to enjoy the show. In addition, fans are encouraged to make requests from a song list distributed to them near the beginning of the show. Which further improves the draw for the attending audience!
In real life, John recently returned from an Asiatic Tour in China. With his return to the Second Life music scene, he brings this vast and exciting experience to share with us in a truly captivating show.
Dress: Casual with hints of green, if you wish.
Monday, March 13, 2023
4 Day Work Week, Anyone?
Four-Day Workweeks Could Be Coming to the U.S. — Here's How
Note: Health Insurance will have to be re-written to include full time workers @ 32 hrs
Tuesday, February 28, 2023
If Second Life isn't a game, what is it? (NBC NEWS)
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Wednesday, February 8, 2023
Door to America, DtA, is proud to provide a new fishing spot
Wed, Feb 08 2023 1:12:43 AM PST
Door to America, a premiere newcomer friendly region now has an [N-O] Grid Wide Fishing spot on our docks. Please, feel free to pop over and try it out. A free demo rod is provided for newbies.
Dock: Door to America, please, click on the picture above to get a map to teleport.
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